Bold: (of a person, action, or idea) showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous.
Be bold. There are many adjectives that one could use to describe me. I don’t believe bold is one of them. Maybe a small facet of it. But full on bold? No.
I more embody the words of kind, passionate, hard working, passive, stubborn, indecisive, creative, personable, etc. But bold? Not so much. Confident, yes. Or at least a lot of the time.
How does one begin to bring boldness into their lives? People say to dream big and be bold. I can dream big just fine. I’m pretty good at that. But be bold? I’m not sure how to really do that. How do you be bold? Not act the part, but actually be the part?
So we google it:
- Stop hesitating
- Do the unexpected
- Pretend you are already bold
- Be willing to say no
Ok……I can do that in my sleep. I’m not sure…..so let’s continue….
- Owning their flaws and strengths
- Having a strong sense of self-awareness
- Knowing what you want to accomplish and seeking it out
- Speaking up
- Accepting failure
- Rock the boat
Ok – now we are talking. We are talking about skills now that you can practice and develop and harness in.
I am not bold. I am kind, almost to a fault. But I’d rather be kind than an ass. I am quiet, I’d rather listen. I don’t usually see the necessity of joining in a conversation in which you don’t have anything to add. I don’t like to lead – I can, but I’m happy to defer to someone who wants to and be a rockstar second. I’m a daydreamer – dreaming big is not hard for me. But perhaps acting upon it, and bridging that gap, is where the magic of boldness can start to develop for me.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”
― William Hutchison Murray